Tonight was pretty much like every other night. Becky and I made dinner, fed the kids, gave them baths and tucked each on of them in. However, tonight we had to pack for a conference that we were heading to tomorrow.
Anytime we plan to leave, we make sure the house and all chores are pretty much done. Well… at least we try to get the house ready. If we have to be gone for more than a few hours, Becky and I really try to make it so they do not have to do anything, except enjoy the time with their four grandkids.
As Becky was downstairs, working away writing her new book, I was upstairs finishing up some laundry. Mind you, it is 11:30 at night. However, doing laundry this late is about the only time I am able to sneak the kids blankets away from them and get them in the wash. If they catch you taking them in the day… well that a whole other issue, but you get the point!
As I was putting clothes away in our son, Beau’s room. I couldn’t help but to just go over and sit on his bed for a little while. Anytime I am going to be away from the kids, I like to just sit in their rooms and watch them sleep… I just want to make sure that I have a nice memory of them while I’m gone. As I sat there, I didn’t cover him up or move him in any way. I just wanted to sit on the edge of his bed and just watch him sleep in peace.
I sat there wondering what he could be dreaming about? I thought “He is probably dreaming of cars… No he is probably thinking of new plans for his fort in the woods. Yep, I bet thats it!” Along with that, like every other night, I closed my eyes and said a little prayer for him. As a baby, he was faced with a lot of challenges and had been able to overcome all of them. Today, my prayers for him are not to get better, but to always stay strong and happy.
As I sat there, not really knowing how long it had been, he rolled over and then opened his eyes. He looked right into my eyes, but didn’t say anything. He just gave me a little smile and then he wiggled his back at me. This is his way to tell me that he wants me to scratch his back! Even when he is sleeping, the boy loves to get his back scratched, just like his Dad. So without hesitation, I did. I scratched his back until he fell back asleep, I gave him a kiss on the head and then I left.
Even in the midst of everything going on, the packing, the cleaning, doing laundry, or working, it did not stop me to take a few moments out of my day to STOP and notice my son. Even though he was sleeping, and I didn’t think he knew I was there… he did! If my son was sleeping and knew I was there, how do you think being there and noticing them when their awake impacts their day?
I know, I will be the first one to admit that I take it for granted, because I am trying to pack, clean, do laundry, work, etc. when I should be paying more attention to them. Believe me when I say, they notice it more than you think! Take a little time today and “notice” your kids a little more. Do not wait for your 5 year old to grab your hand in the middle of his story and say “Dad, can you look at me when I am telling my story!” Just stop and look them in the eyes and give them 100% of your undivided attention. Listen to your kids, because the little things now will become big things later. You want to appreciate these little moments now, so they come to you with their big moments later.