I want to talk about 10 ways fathers can teach their kids respect because it is an important lesson that will take your kids far in life.
Picture this: A teacher tells a class that they have to complete a geography assignment and they have a week to do it. The class began working, except for one student. This one student refused. He became more and more worked up as the others were doing their work. Soon he was yelling at the teacher and physically attacked the teacher (this is a true story that I witnessed). These are the moments when I think about how important it is to teach our children to respect others, while they are still young, to prevent situations like this one.
10 ways fathers can teach their kids respect:
Growing up, I remember my Dad telling me “I am not your friend, I am your father…one day we will be friends.” At the time I thought he was unfair, but later I realized that he was my first teacher, my guide, my rock…he was my father and had all of my respect. I want our kids to feel the same way.
1. Fathers should teach their kids how to look into someones eyes and shake hands properly… it’s sign of respect.
2. We should teach our boys to hold open doors for others, and (one day) to open the car door for their girlfriend… it’s a sign of respect.
3. Parents should teach kids how to clean up after themselves, especially at a friends home. They should leave an area cleaner than when they started playing… it’s a sign of respect.
4. Kids should be taught how to ask for something they want. Let them ask for their own drink at the restaurant. Don’t let them rely on YOU to do the asking for them. They should know how to use “Please” and “Thank You”… it’s a sign of respect.
5. We need to teach our kids to ask for something politely… like the saying goes: Honey tastes better than vinegar. Demanding something is not an option and not a way to get what they need or want. Use your manners… it’s a sign of respect.
6. Teach your children that after each practice or an after school program, to tell their coach or teacher “Thank You.” As a coach myself, it speaks volumes of the children and the parents… it’s a sign of respect.
7. Teach your children to cheer for and lift up their bothers and sisters. Mom and Dad do not have to always be their “biggest” fan, so can their siblings… it’s a sign of respect.
8. We need to teach our kids to think of other people’s feelings and be grateful for what God has provided for them. Do not not tell your parents that “I don’t like dinner” Instead teach them to be thankful…it’s a sign of respect.
9. Respect other people’s things, no matter what it is. When our kids borrow my tools and leave them outside, they will not be allowed to borrow them again for quite some time. However, if they borrow my drill and put it away when they are done, they will be allowed to use it again…it’s a sign of respect.
10. Teach you kids that no matter what, you respect all adults, 100% of the time. It is never ok to talk back or to say “Your not the boss of me.” Respect your elders… it’s a sign of respect.
Children need to know why something is being done or why Mom and Dad are saying “No” to a second helping of ice cream. Give them a story BEHIND the reasons.
~”This was my grandfather’s hammer. It is special to me…one day it could be your hammer. This is why we have to take care of it.”
~”No, you can not have that extra ice-cream. I do not want that little belly to get upset.”
Teaching is something that never stops. We must teach them to respect others NOW in order to respect themselves in the future. They need the guidance from a roll model…YOU.