Welcome back to my series on Remember For Life. If you missed Day One, you can read it here. This series started from a story that I heard on a radio station that I listen to and it really reminded me of what was important – what our children will remember.
Day Two was about focusing on our kids and giving them our full attention. If you missed it, you can find it here.
Today’s focus is more on relationships. Day 3: The way you treat others, especially your spouse.
Think of your childhood. Who did you look up to the most? Was it the people on TV or your Mom and Dad? I’m going to guess you would pick your Mom and Dad, or maybe someone who helped raise you. What type of relationship did you have with them? What type of relationship did they have with each other? Was it a loving one or one with resentment?
Becky and I both grew up in households where love and affection was present. As a kid I thought the affection shown by my parents was gross, (like I am sure most of you did!) Today, my opinion of that public affection they had for each other has changed. I know that a quick kiss in the kitchen or a hug when my dad got home from work was a sign that they really loved each other.
Holding hands, hugging, rubbing each others’s back… all of these signs of affection are important for your kids to see. When Becky and I will hug, the kids usually run up to hug us, too. It is so natural for them to see us and they want to be a part of that love. All that they know is that we are in a loving relationship and it makes them happy.
We want them to strive to have the same type or relationship with their spouses. Just like our parents, and now us… we hope that it continues. We are still fortunate that our parents have had strong, lasting marriages. Both sets of parents that still show affection towards each other and show that they love each other. Becky and I are the same… and we are happy. The kids sense that and it makes them happy, too. It keeps our family strong.