I want to tell you why you need to tuck your kids in at night, and its not why you may think. Its not because you are “just supposed to”. It is not simply because you want to give them a goodnight kiss, or because you are just trying to cover them up to keep them warm…
Throughout the day, my wife and I try to get our kids to tell us about their day. We ask them when they get off the bus, “So what happened at school today?” Response…”Nothing.” (Strike 1) We try again after homework time, “Anything new happen today?” Respone….”Nope.” (strike2). We then make one last try at family dinner time, “Anything good happen to anyone today?” Well I guess you know the answer…yep, (Strike number 3 and your out.)
However, when is time for bed, they will finally spill the beans just to stay up a little longer. You don’t even have to prompt them. Every night when we walk out of their room, we get ‘the call back’: “Mom? Dad? Can you come back for a minute?”
This is when it finally happens…. wait for it! They tell you EVERYTHING! “So-and-so did this today!” “You will not believe who got hurt on the playground today and then just got up and was fine!”
This is when they will finally tell you what is really going on in their lives, so take the little extra time to LISTEN to what they have to say. Spend an extra ten minutes with them at night to just sit and hear what they have to say. (Other things can wait- reports, cleaning, TV shows- it can all wait)
You’ve heard the phrase... “Always kiss me good night” Don’t forget to physically show they you love them with a hug and a kiss. (Or even a scratch on the back, if you are our 6 year old, Beau.)
In the end, just know that you will give them five minutes (yes, they will probably ask for five more… or ten more…) and they will give you the key to unlock a special bond. They will let you “in” to their own little world. This will create a LASTING bond!
Tucking your kids in is a nice ending to their day. Showering your children with love is always a good thing. They will know as they fall asleep at night, that the most special people in their lives love them unconditionally and took the time to listen to them, even when they had other things to do.
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